Fight from the Same Side: Ever noticed how easy it is to fight on the opposing side of an issue with your spouse and stay there? Being right. Being heard. Not budging becomes the goal…. not resolving the issue.

The longer we work with couples in this area of conflict resolution the more  we are encouraging couples to solve their problems from the same side. Link arms and work together. Two minds working together are far more powerful than one.

When life throws something at you decide to face the challenge together. What are your options? Write them down. Think outside the box. Some ideas might be ridiculous but still consider them.

The more often you practice working together the more satisfied you will become with your relationship. The happier you will be. You will impact the world around you by being a team.

I challenge you to think about this.

In fact, a problem is coming your way now. Make plans to succeed – get on the same side as your spouse!

Fighting Back! Reclaiming Your Marriage!  Series

Some things in life are worth fighting for….your marriage relationship is one of them!

As I have watched so many couples struggle either in the media or in real life I am struck with the need to write this series. Problems in marriage can come up daily. After all, who ever found that living with anybody was easy?! I even remember living with siblings could be difficult. Sometimes when we encounter problems with our partner or spouse, it may feel like it is easier to walk away….

More often it is not putting into place a crisis plan, dealing with the finances, understanding our partner or looking at conflict resolution.

Marriage requires work…hard work. And when you work hard you reap incredible benefits of journeying through life with one person who is committed to just you. Come along with me through this series.

I look forward to hearing from you.

Anne

It’s been said before, but I don’t think it’s cliché yet: we devote years to getting an education and then enter one of the biggest decisions of our lives with no preparation at all- Marriage!

I’m sure many couples feel they are so in love and know each other so well they don’t need any extra preparation. Then there’s the fear of getting trapped in a room where you might be put on the spot by the counsellor and feel totally awkward. Besides, why turn over your private life to some stranger- who says he/she knows anything?!?!

Enter Prepare and Enrich. Here is a scientific approach to finding out how a couple is doing in 12 key areas, as well as a personality assessment. This is accomplished by means of a 200+ question inventory that asks all about the individual and how they view various aspects of their relationship (done online). What comes back is a “map” of great detail and incredible accuracy (as many couples have attested) of their areas of strength and areas of growth.

Note it is not “weakness” but “growth”; neither the report nor the P&E coach presume to tell the couple whether or not they will succeed in their marriage- there is no “pass” or “fail” here. Rather, the map is a starting place to begin to teach specific tools to help the couple with their areas of growth, and celebrate the areas of strength. The process realistically assumes that all couples will have conflict and difficulties; it is not the so-called “perfectly matched” couples who will succeed but those who make their relationship a priority and work at it.

Don’t just plan a wedding, plan for a marriage!! (another cliché?) You’ve found the right person, now do the right thing for the two of you. Why just fall in a pot hole you could have known about ahead of time and fixed? Get real preparation for the conflicts that will inevitably come.

We are proud to be Prepare and Enrich coaches.

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Choose the one that is right for the two of you. Try the couples test here.

For all  considering tying the knot this month. Do not leave getting your license to the end of the month. Pick one up early from your City hall.  Offices become busier with other licenses pepared during this season and some offices are closed for holidays.

For those who would like an elopement or “we just want to get married” ceremony, we will be open with longer hours during the month of December.  You may have a religious or non-denominational ceremony. You may bring your own vows. Photos are welcome.

Our fee is $195.00 for the ceremony and the room for up to 6 people. Our Fireside room holds up to 10 people. Witnesses can be provided for an additional $25.00 each.

Contact us by phone at 905.407.9676 or email us through this website to reserve your date.

As the official bridal season has come to an end, we want to thank all of the couples we married for the privilege of being part of your day! You were all wonderful!

We also want to thank all the venues and vendors we worked with throughout the year.

You are the best group of professionals in the wedding industry!

Thank you  for another great year!

Garry and Anne Blinch

With more and more ceremonies performed and enjoyed outdoors, couples need to consider who can actually hear the special words they have chosen to say on their wedding day. This summer like every summer couples are choosing golf courses, vineyards, waterfronts and backyards for their wedding ceremonies. A little different than other years the weather has been more of a challenge. The sound of the rain pounding on the tent, high winds on a golf course or the affects of being near water has robbed more guests of hearing the words spoken at ceremonies. “Consider how everyone beyond the first row will hear your I do’s.”

Another thing to consider whether indoors or outdoors, is nerves. Most brides and grooms are not comfortable with speaking to a crowd and they become afraid. Voices lower, words are mumbled again their low tones are not heard. The same can happen to readers, parents and even vocalists. Yes vocalists.

Have your ceremony well miked for the hearing comfort of all of your family and guests. Recently a very old aunt approached me after the wedding and spoke to me about how disappointed she was that she did not hear a single word. Only moments before the whole family had mentioned to me that they were so pleased she was to be there to share in their special day. It was sad she did not realy share in their experience.

Here in Burlington, Ontario, Long and Mc Quade will provide mikes, stands and speakers for a little as $30 and tax for a small group outside and as much as $60.00 and tax for a larger group for the weekend. Set –up is easy. Contact James or Josh to reserve your equipment. Below I have provided their contact information.

As a company that provides our couples with the best in choice and resources, we, at Kettle Creek Weddings – Burlington/Oakville desire that your day be the best it can be. May you have a wonderful outdoor or indoor wedding this year!

Long and McQuade 3180 Mainway Drive, Burlington, Ontario, L7M 1A5
Phone: (905) 319-3330 for James or Josh       Ask for: SureSN58 microphone, stand and speakers

CHOOSING A VEIL: An integral piece of your wedding day ensemble. It sets you apart by letting the world know that you are the bride. Nothing says “bride” quite like a veil… Of course your dream dress will make you look and feel special, but it’s the veil that adds an unmistakable element of glamour and sets you apart from the crowd. Today there are so many chic options that brides who never dreamed of wearing a veil are opting for this once-in-a-lifetime romantic look. Veil trends range from simply modern styles to luxuriously embellished with Swarovski crystals and pearls. Try a timeless classic: a simple blusher paired with a single-tiered veil (short, medium or long, the choice is yours). Or go for the drama of a cathedral veil. Whether you’re getting married in a formal setting or a casual ceremony on the beach, a long flowing veil is sure to create a striking image… and amazingly beautiful photos. There are many variations in veil length, shape, color, edging, and embellishment, so we are here to help you make sense of it all. Creating the perfect look is as easy as 1-2-3. 1. Choose from a variety of lengths and shapes 2. Select the level of embellishment that’s right for you 3. Combine your veil ensemble with the perfect headpiece

Dont’ just “Google” for your Wedding Needs! Tonight is the night your must find the next thing on your wedding list. To save money and time, you are considering using your computer to do your searching.  The net is great for finding all of the vendors who don’t have store fronts but have products and services that you need. Tonight, don’t just search for them through your search engine like Google or Yahoo.

Now there are communities of vendors who are on Twitter. Go straight to http://twitter.com/and put in a search for weddings or shoes or fitness coaches or wedding officiants.

These same vendors blog their ideas and their products. Look on blogs such as http://wordpress.com  and put in your search there.  Ideas are so plentiful on the net and these are just a few other sources where valuable vendors are discussing new ideas and showing their wares.

Leave those wedding magazines in the stores.  Invest some time on- line and and  in a couple nights with your computer and you can have your needs met at your finger tips. You might even dazzle your friends with the new ideas you have found.